More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux

>> Tuesday, November 25, 2014

A long-awaited, wide-ranging resource exploring the often-complex world of living polyamorously.

Highlighting the nuances, the relationship options, the myths and the expectations, the authors share not only their hard-won philosophies about polyamory, but also their hurts and embarrassments, while gently guiding readers through the thorny issues of jealousy and insecurity.

From Ancient Greece through the many dynasties of China to current practices of non-monogamy, people have openly engaged in multiple intimate relationships. Not until the late 20th century, however, was a word coined that encapsulated the practice, as well as its philosophies, edicts and ethics: polyamory (poly = many + amore = love).

For Franklin Veaux, who has been polyamorous for his entire adult life, the emerging framework and subsequent vocabulary for his lifestyle was a light in the dark. Candidly sharing his experiences and thoughts online catapulted his website, among the first dedicated to the poly lifestyle, to one of the top-ranking on the subject.

In recent years, as more people have discovered polyamory as a legitimate and desirable option for how they conduct their relationships, Franklin and one of his partners, Eve Rickert, saw that there was a growing need for a comprehensive guide to the lifestyle. More Than Two is that guide.

This wide-ranging resource explores the often-complex world of living polyamorously: the nuances (no, this isn t swinging), the relationship options (do you suit a V, an N, an open network?), the myths (don't count on wild orgies and endless sex but don't rule them out either!) and the expectations (communication, transparency and trust are paramount). More Than Two is entirely without judgment and peppered with a good dose of humor. In it the authors share not only their hard-won philosophies about polyamory, but also their hurts and embarrassments. Living poly is not always an easy road, and they hope that by reading this book, you'll avoid some of the mistakes they've made along the way.

Challenging the notion of what society considers a healthy and successful relationship, they offer up personal stories from their own lives as well as of those in the wider poly world, emphasizing that this lifestyle choice isn't for the noncommittal. Polyamory is all about the relationships and the individuals participating. Charting a Relationship Bill of Rights, the authors underscore the importance of engaging in ethical polyamory and guide readers through the thorny issues of jealousy and insecurity with the aim of encouraging readers to work consistently and conscientiously on both their relationships and themselves.

And no, they're not trying to convert you: they know that polyamory isn't for everyone. Veaux and Rickert simply provide those who might be embarking on this lifestyle or those who have always known they are poly with a set of tools and many questions to help them make informed decisions and set them on a path to enjoying multiple happy, strong, enriching relationships.

More Than Two is the book the polyamory community has been waiting for. And who knows? It may just be the book you didn't even know you were waiting for.

About Franklin Veaux

As a child, I heard a fairy tale about a princess forced to choose between two handsome princes, and thought, “Everyone knows princesses live in castles. And castles are big enough for both princes. So why does she have to choose?” I have been writing about polyamory since 1998 at, one of the top-ranked sites about polyamory on the Web. I currently have five long-term partners and live in Portland, OR.


Brightwill by Randolph Lalonde

Naze the Great Wizard finally tells his students and fellows about his exploits with his long lost brother, Riv. Riv, the outcast, the Thief of the Enduring Light, the Slasher Goblin, is an unexpected sibling to Naze the Wizard. What the Great Wizard reveals is a tale of bold misadventure and a people facing extinction. No one will see him the same way again.

Brightwill, a land razed by war, on the verge of utter destruction.

There are few strongholds left, and few leaders who have the

vision and the power to protect their people.

Naze Kinu, the Great Wizard provides a stronghold for the most

talented young and old people in the lands. The Amber Refuge is

his life’s work, a central stronghold built by his comrades, his

power and his reputation.

That is why, when he tells his long time aide, Doril, that he intends to

tell all about his secret sibling, Riv. His intentions are met with

alarm. Naze kept his relation to Riv a secret for half a century.

Riv, known in legend as the Slasher Gremlin, the Prince

Slayer, and the thief of the Enduring Light.

Despite the damage his revelation could do to his reputation,

Naze is set on telling the true story of his brother, of the days

that inspired the legend. Most of those close to him are left

to wonder why, and to listen as their leader regales them with

the tale of his misadventures with his brother and Oroza, the


This is the story of Naze and the brother he can no longer deny

this is the story of Brightwill in times of drastic change.

About Randolph Lalonde

Born in 1974, Randolph Lalonde has worked in customer service, sales, played drums for several heavy metal bands you've never heard of, dealt blackjack in a traveling casino, and serviced countless computers. He's also owned businesses in the design, printing, collectible and custom computer fields.

He completed writing his first novel in the fantasy adventure genre at the age of fifteen and has been writing ever since.

He self published his first novel;

Fate Cycle: Sins of the Past in 2004 and after taking a break has begun to release his work again starting with the First Light Chronicles series.

Randolph Lalonde has sold nearly one hundred thousand eBooks to date, enough to keep writing full time. He is deeply grateful for his following of readers and strives to improve his skills to better entertain them. The Spinward Fringe Space Opera series has proven to be his most popular offering.

He currently resides in Sudbury Ontario where he's working on a new fantasy novel due out in 2014.

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How to Speak Your Mind – Become Assertive and Set Limits by Darlene Lancer JD LMFT

"How to Speak Your Mind" explains what it means to be assertive, why it's important, and how to achieve it. It details all of the elements of assertive and nonverbal communication and lays out the steps to become assertive, as well as common mistakes to avoid.

"How to Speak Your Mind" walks you through the difficult

task of learning to set limits and boundaries, providing tips and techniques.

Do you say what you think, express how you feel, and ask for what you want? The way you speak immediately conveys your self-esteem. Nonassertive communication limits your professional success and leads to conflict and problems in relationships. Learning to be assertive actually raises your self-esteem, while benefiting your career, relationships, and sense of well-being.

"How to Speak Your Mind" explains what it means to be assertive, why it's important, and how to achieve it. It details all of the elements of assertive and nonverbal communication and lays out the steps to become assertive, as well as common mistakes to avoid.

Once you learn to be assertive, you're ready to establish boundaries with people. The book explains what it means to have limits and a bottom line and how to determine what yours are. The next section shows you how to go about verbalizing your boundaries in a way that will be effective.

About Darlene Lancer JD LMFT

Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT is a marriage and family therapist. She is a relationship expert and author of "Codependency for Dummies" and "Conquering Codependency and Shame: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You." In her private clinical practice, she has treated individuals and couples for over 27 years. For two decades, she's been a consultant and workshop presenter at many addiction rehabilitation facilities. She's a frequent guest speaker on radio and has lectured at colleges, universities, and various organizations, including the California State Bar Association.

Before becoming a psychotherapist, Ms. Lancer had a successful law career. She was a Senior Mediator for the Los Angeles Conciliation Court, where she helped families resolve custody and visitation disputes and domestic violence problems.

Her articles have been published widely in professional and popular periodicals. You can find her blogs at and More information about her seminars and coaching packages are available on her website,

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Unleashing the Power of Your Story by Dr. Steven P. Ober

Our lives are full of stories. They are so much a part of who we are and what we do that we often don’t notice their presence. This book focuses on our deep personal stories, how we can know them more clearly, how they help us, how they limit us, and how we can learn to see them anew and create even more powerful personal stories ... stories that empower us to reach our highest aspirations.

Our lives are full of stories. They are, like the air we breathe, so much a part of who we are and what we do that we often don’t notice their presence.

Stories are the bases of our movies, television, books, communication, work, religion, humor, conversation, and thinking. They are the primary way we pass our experience, wisdom, and foibles from group to group, generation to generation. And, most powerfully, our stories are a reflection of who we are at our core – as individuals, and as a species.

Stories cover the whole gamut of human experience, from our descriptions of the universe, e.g. the Big Bang story, to expressions of our deep inner selves – our core personal stories.

While taking the whole range into account, this book focuses on the latter, our deep personal stories, how we can learn to know them more clearly, how they help us, how they can constrain us, and how we can, if we wish, learn to see them anew and create even more powerful personal stories ... stories that reflect not only our life experiences, but empower us to reach our highest aspirations for the future.

Stories are critical for leaders. Every leader has a deep personal story, a systemic story that shapes his/her patterns of leadership. And, recent work in leadership and leadership development suggests a new answer to the age-old question, “What makes a leader?”

We have searched for, among other things, common traits, patterns of behavior, and core competencies that characterize leaders. But, we are discovering that what makes the most powerful leaders, the authentic leaders, are not necessarily common abilities or ways of behaving.

What makes the most powerful leaders is that they live/operate, consistently, from who they deeply are. Put another way, they live in congruence with and become the masters of their own personal stories.

This book is intended to help leaders, coaches and others learn to become clear about their core, and to live from it creatively.

About Dr. Steven P. Ober

Dr. Steven P. Ober is a senior practitioner in Executive Coaching, Leadership Development, Organizational Learning and Change, and Executive Team Learning. He has worked successfully with senior executives and managers at multiple levels in high tech, business and industry, health care, government, and education. The focus of Dr. Ober’s work is helping individual executives, executive teams, and their organizations achieve outstanding results in complex systems, especially in periods of major change.

Steve developed and successfully uses a powerful approach to coaching, Creating your Leadership Story, that enables leaders to make deep, lasting improvements in their effectiveness in short periods of time. This book, Unleashing the Power of Your Story, makes Steve’s approach available to all readers--whether they are executives, managers, professionals, or simply people who want to grow and develop

Steve was a Vice-President and Partner at Arthur D. Little, a Principal at Innovation Associates, and key member of the ADL Strategy and Organization Practice. Currently. he is the President and Principal of Chrysalis Executive coaching & Consulting.

Steve has led sessions on Human Systems Consulting at national conferences and has been a member of the American Psychological Association Society of Consulting Psychology, the Society for Organizational Learning, the Organization Development Learning Group, the Boston Facilitators Roundtable, Coach Source Connect, and he is affiliated with the Institute of Coaching Professional Association.

Dr. Ober has authored numerous published articles, professional guidebooks, and book chapters, including:

“Interaction Archetypes: Keys to Group Difficulty and Productivity,” The Handbook for Working with Difficult Groups, Jossey-Bass/Wiley, 2010.

“Lies about Learning Organizations,” Lies About Learning, American Society for Training and Development, 2006.

Encouraging Enrollment, Personal Stories as a Vehicle for Change, Prism, 2000

Creating Business Results through Team Learning, Prism, 1999.

Achieving Breakthroughs in Executive Team Performance, Prism, 1999.

Steve is also a regular contributor to the Authenticity Consulting Free Management Library Leadership blog (see link below),

He holds a BA and MA from Baylor University, an MTS from Harvard, and An EdD in Organizational Studies from Boston University. His clients have included: Boston Consulting Group, Inland Paperboard and Packaging, Microsoft Corp, Monitor Group, NASA, Time-Warner, US Steel, and the Royal Bank of Canada.

Steve is known for his collaborative approach; his frankness, openness, and honesty; and his ability to unravel very difficult individual, team and organizational problems.

If you would like to learn more about leadership story work or systemic approaches to leadership, feel free to call or email Steve (see contact information below).

Steven P. Ober EdD

President: Chrysalis Executive Coaching & Consulting

Affiliate: Systems Perspectives, LLC

Office: PO Box 278, Oakham, MA 01068

Home: 278 Crocker Nye Rd., Oakham, MA 01068

O: 508.882.1025 M: 978.590.4219



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Numerical Problems for PMP by Keshav Kumar

This book consist of 50 numerical problems for PMP exam and detailed answer at the end of book. These problems are relatively difficult compared to what actually PMP aspirants would come across. However, if participants are comfortable in these 50 questions, they would find numerical problems in PMP exam relatively easy.

Most of the PMP aspirants find numerical problems in PMP exam extremely difficult. This could be either because of aversion towards mathematics or lack of conceptual knowledge to decipher these numerical problems. It is very important for PMP aspirants to become comfortable with numerical problems because it could account for 15 to 20% of 200 questions. To be specific, PMP aspirants find numerical problems related to Time Management, Cost Management and Risk Management difficult to handle and rely only on formulas.

Keeping the importance of these mathematical problems for PMP Exam, these fifty questions have been created. The fifty questions in this book will test participant's conceptual knowledge of subject. Answers with detailed explanation is provided at the end. If participants are able to solve these problems, they would find problems in PMP Exam relatively easy. These fifty questions are relatively difficult compared to what actually participants would come across in exam. However, becoming comfortable with these relatively difficult problems would make participants more confident to handle mathematical problems in exam

About Keshav Kumar

Keshav is a PMP®, PMI-ACP® and PMI- RMP® certified professional with more than Fourteen years of IT and Business Management experience. Currently, Keshav is Management consultant providing project management consulting and trainings. Prior to this, Keshav was working in HSBC as Lead(AVP) for large projects and programs.

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Scappare a Granada by sella1971

>> Sunday, November 23, 2014

La cosa più bella di Granada è che quando cominci a passeggiare per le sue stradine ti dimentichi che è una grande città. Subito ti ritrovi bancarelle di commercianti arabi che provano a venderti un pezzettino della loro cultura. Incenso, indumenti, cibarie, tutto trova un posto nelle strade grondanti di gente, di allegria e di storia.

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Game Programming Patterns by Robert Nystrom

>> Saturday, November 22, 2014

Based on years of real-world experience shipping AAA games, Game Programming Patterns collects proven tools to manage your game's complexity, make progress on it quickly, and optimize its runtime performance.

The biggest challenge facing many game programmers is completing their game. Most game projects fizzle out, overwhelmed by the complexity of their own code. Game Programming Patterns tackles that exact problem. Based on years of experience in shipped AAA titles, this book collects proven patterns to untangle and optimize your game, organized as independent recipes so you can pick just the patterns you need.

You will learn how to write a robust game loop, how to organize your entities using components, and take advantage of the CPUs cache to improve your performance. You'll dive deep into how scripting engines encode behavior, how quadtrees and other spatial partitions optimize your engine, and how other classic design patterns can be used in games.

About Robert Nystrom

Robert Nystrom has programmed professionally for twenty years, about half of which is in games. During his eight years at Electronic Arts, he worked on behemoths like Madden and smaller titles like Henry Hatsworth in the Puzzling Adventure. He's shipped games on the PC, GameCube, PS2, XBox, X360, and DS, but is most proud of the tools and shared libraries he created for others to build on. He loves seeing usable, beautiful code magnify the creative ability of others.

Robert lives with his wife and two daughters in Seattle where you are most likely to find him cooking for his friends and plying them with good beer.

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